Gratitude in Recovery

Gratitude in Recovery   Some people say the A.A. should stand for Attitude Adjustment, and that is exactly what has to happen if a person has any chance at all at staying healthy in recovery or sober for any length of time. Here are some tips for gratitude in recovery to help you get to an attitude of gratitude: Make a gratitude list. We suggest leaving the keyboard, and writing this out the old-fashioned way with pen and paper. If you are having trouble coming up with things you are grateful for, think about some really big things like breathing, eating, eyesight, friends and so on. Even if you don’t really feel grateful, write them down anyway, and in the process, you may find your attitude adjusting. Drop blame. Remember, if you are pointing your finger at someone else, you…

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Codependency Legacy Recovery

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Codependency Legacy Recovery   Mom was a woman who would have given whatever she could to see others happy, and always put herself last. – Taken from an obituary column in the local newspaper. Is codependent legacy recovery possible? This little sentence says a whole lot about the behaviour of the woman who just passed. Not knowing this person, but based on this description, she was likely a people-pleaser and codependent, maybe even a long-suffering martyr. What is it like to live with someone who only wants to see others happy, and always puts themselves last? Not very genuine or mutual that’s for sure. This is what codependency and people-pleasing is all about, trying (unconsciously?) to manipulate other people with self-serving behaviour dressed up as generosity and kindness. While growing up in an unpredictable home life, people tend to find ways…

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Surrender to Win

Surrender to Win   Find Victory in Defeat What does ‘Surrender to Win’ really mean? Surrender is one of those words right up there with ‘humility’, ‘discipline’ and ‘obedience’. However, in addiction recovery from alcoholism, drug addiction or other addiction, we learn to look at things in a new light.  If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change, so try on this new definition of Surrender. It just might change your life. Come to tropical Panama and let us help you experience the life of recovery you’ve dreamed of. On the winning side! Recovery isn’t difficult. In fact, our holistic program can be a lot of fun. Interesting, challenging, stimulating, exciting, and hope filled. It’s the struggle with alcohol, drugs, addiction, negative consequences, and despair that is so difficult, endless and painful. When you…

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Codependent Behavior in Action: The Kleenex Box Super Hero

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Codependent Behavior in Action: The Kleenex Box Super Hero   Codependent Behavior in Action:  The scene: A 12 Step meeting, a person sharing begins to cry, the Kleenex Box Super Hero arrives with a flourish. Recognize the scene? You may have played one of the starring roles. What is really going on here is an excellent example of unhealthy co-dependent and manipulative behaviour. What?! Let’s examine the dynamics of codependent behavior. When a person shares in a room full of 12 Step peers, they are often getting in touch with feelings that have long been buried. It can take considerable effort for a person to feel safe enough with feelings of vulnerability to really allow themselves to express their emotions. You’ve seen it, after a lot of talking, a person may begin to tear up, perhaps to really cry, or even sob.…

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Acceptance Is The Key to Recovery from Codependence

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Recovery from Codependence – Acceptance is the Key to Freedom When arguing with the Universe, the Universe always wins. Often I forget where I put the key to freedom, but there it is, right in my pocket, all along. Acceptance is the key to recovery from codependence, to a life of freedom. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says it so succinctly, we’ve copied it out here for you. If you haven’t read it before, read it slowly and mindfully. If you have read it before, read it slowly and mindfully again. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous on ACCEPTANCE Acceptance is the answer to ALL of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation- some fact of my life- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person,…

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Tied Up In Illusion – Old Codependent Behaviors

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Tied Up in Illusion – Old Codependent Behaviors See if you can relate to this bovine story of stuckness illustrating codependent behaviors Here is a nice illustration of codependent behaviors: Early each morning a young boy let the cows out to pasture and in the evenings he brought them home. So that the cows didn’t roam through the night, he made sure they were each tied. One evening the boy saw a cow that had lost her rope during the day and he had nothing else with which to tie her. He couldn’t have her wandering off in the night, so he ran to ask the old man next door what he should do. The old man listened to the boy and nodded. “Son, you just pretend to tie up that cow with an imaginary rope. She’ll stay.” The boy was skeptical, but went back and tried the old man’s…

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Nicotine Rehab

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In response to Serenity Vista’s Latest Press Release “Good for you! Nicotine rehab! I’ve watched too many CHILDREN beat alcohol or marijuana use, then get thoroughly hooked on cigarettes in their sobriety peer groups while their parents breathe misguided sighs of relief.” Nancy L. (Sobriety Advocate, Recovery Coach) quoted from LinkedIn   Excerpt From the Press Release Says Director John Derry: “We’d rather facilitate the full, long term recovery of a few people to achieve a full and rewarding life free of all addictions, than have a lot of people come through the doors and leave still addicted to smoking which is highly toxic and deadly”. Sadly, larger corporate treatment centers, driven by profit and economies of scale hold on to what is more popular, not necessarily what is in the best interest of those they purport to serve. Serenity…

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One Day at a Time: Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow

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One Day at a Time: Yesterday, Today, Tomorrow This prose is a nice reminder to live one day at a time: There are two days in every week about which we should not worry. Two days which should be kept free from fear and apprehension. One of these days is yesterday, with its mistakes and cares, its faults and blunders, its aches and pains. Yesterday has passed forever beyond our control. All the money in the world cannot bring back yesterday. We cannot undo a single act we performed. We cannot erase a single word we said. Yesterday is gone. The other day we should not worry about is tomorrow. With its possible adversities, its burdens, its large promise and poor performance. Tomorrow is also beyond our immediate control. Tomorrow’s sun will rise, either in splendor or behind a mask…

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Recovery, Unity, Service – Mandalacized

Never Too Late For Sobriety

Recovery, Unity, Service – Mandalacized The Triangle in the Circle I came across this beautiful mandala this morning, as a friend had posted it as her FB profile pic. As far as I know, this friend likely has no idea of the recovery symbol of the magnificent mandala. However, as soon as I saw this mandala, I knew I wanted to share it with my friends of Bill W. A little background information came from AA.org.  I was surprised to see that the symbol representing recovery, unity, service has been officially discontinued for AA, but daily I am surprised by all the things I don’t know! The Circle and Triangle symbol has long been connected to the A.A. Fellowship. It was adopted as an official A.A. symbol at the International Convention in St. Louis in 1955, and from that point…

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