Does My Loved One Need Rehab?

NEED REHAB? Common Signs That Your Loved One Needs Drug and Alcohol Treatment


Does your loved one need rehab? How do you know when it’s time to ask your loved one to seek help for their problem? It’s tough. Drinking alcohol is ingrained in our society and many drugs are often glamorized, so knowing when to stop — knowing when drinking or using drugs have become a problem — is hard to figure out on your own. Does your loved one suffer from addiction? Does he or she need rehab?

However, we have been providing counseling and holistic therapy for the treatment of addiction and alcoholism long enough to know how to spot all the warning signs. And while there are many different signs, below are the most common for you to watch for. If your mother, son, father, daughter, husband, wife, sister, or other loved one displays any of the signs below, they may need rehab. An assessment guide may also be helpful in looking for warning signs. Contact us as soon as possible and we can help assess the situation more fully. 


This is probably one of the most sensitive subjects to talk about. We all know that money problems are at the root of many relationship problems. Some even say it is the root of all evil. You can learn a lot about people by simply following their spending habits.

If you think your loved one may have a problem with drugs or alcohol, learning more about how they spend their money is a rough indicator of whether there is a problem. For example, if they like to drink, how much money do they spend on alcohol? Do they head to the bars or beer or liquor stores soon after getting paid? If so, this may indicate that they might have a problem with alcohol or be alcoholic.

What About Missing Money?

Does your loved one lose money often or have money go unaccounted for? This is never a good sign. If money seems to go missing a lot then there is probably something else going on that needs to be addressed. Addicts and alcoholics will often spend excessive amounts on their drug of choice at the expense of meeting other responsibilities. Even on payday, they often come home with little or no money at all. This ties in to the next sign…


Do you find yourself listening to your loved one repeatedly telling elaborate lies about where they have been or how they lost their money? If so, you need to act quickly and find them help, which may include addiction treatment.

Dishonesty is like the currency of addiction and alcoholism, just as honesty is the cornerstone of recovery. Addicts and alcoholics believe that as long as they have a story, they have a way out, and maintain the illusion of being in control. The longer they struggle with their disease, the more ridiculous and elaborate their stories become. Eventually these stories become too difficult to accept and you will find yourself calling them out on their level of honesty. What happens then?


When caught in a lie, addicts and alcoholics may become angry and even violent. They may try to spin yet another lie and become even more angry when doing so. Defensiveness and anger are indicative of someone who is struggling with alcohol, other drugs, or other form of addiction. If you find that your loved one gets angry when trying to explain things, or that they get angry quickly, this should serve as a warning to you that they need help. There is no reason that you should put up with this type of behavior — you deserve to be treated with respect. If you find that your loved one is growing increasingly angry over things that didn’t use to bother them, then it is definitely time to find professional help. Not only may your loved one need help for alcoholism or other form of addiction, but you, as the loved one, may also need help as the codependent person in this struggling relationship.

Mood Swings

Anger is not the only way a person can be moody. If your loved one is battling addiction or alcoholism they are likely to display their moodiness from one end of the spectrum to the other. Mood swings are common. They could be happy one minute, angry the next. Depression is also often a sign of addiction and alcoholism, and may have a causative role as well. What’s important to note here is not the actual moods, it’s the constant or sudden shift in moods you want to be aware of. If you notice that your loved one seems constantly ‘down’, or “a different person” every day, it’s time to find help.

First Steps

This list is in no way exhaustive, but a few high level tell tale signs there may be a problem. Any one of these signs can be problematic, but if your loved one shows several together then it is very likely that he or she is struggling with a chemical dependency and needs help. There are excellent assessments that will help discern the extent of the problem.

Although your heart is in the right place, you cannot take on these problems by yourself. This is one area where the do it yourself mindset might actually cause more harm than good. There are plenty of options available to you though, so don’t worry. Affordable rehabilitation is what we specialize in here at Serenity Vista.

If you or your loved one is struggling and you want an assessment, we are pleased to help. There are online self assessments as a high level indicator. You can also call or email to discuss your situation. As a first step, and to help us determine if we are a fit for your needs, we invite you to complete the initial form found here. It doesn’t obligate you to anything but helps to clarify the issues and if help is required. Taking a good look at what’s going on, and getting honest, are crucial first steps.

Private pay, affordable, holistic rehab can be transformative. The cycle of addiction, if untreated, always gets worse. But good help is available, and a healthy whole life with renewal of relationships is possible. Never give up hope. Reaching out and asking for help is the first step.

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