Sober Through Halloween Shenanigens

Sober Through Halloween

Staying Sober through Halloween Hauntings If this is your first year sober at Halloween – Congratulations! If this is your 2nd, 3rd or more Halloweens sober – Congratulations! If you aren’t sober yet, but hoping to be really soon – Congratulations! I guess this covers everybody except the non-alcoholics and the alcoholics who still consider their shenanigans fun. There, now everybody is covered. Some of you may be wondering how to get through this Haunting Holiday without the ‘trick or not-treat’ of picking up a drink or a drug. It can be a daunting haunting! (sorry, that was bad) But seriously what about staying sober through Halloween? Halloween in the Early Days Kids learn really early to love this holiday, especially the ‘addicts in waiting’. What could be more fun than dressing up in creepy clothes, or being an angel…

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Letting Go in Addiction Recovery…to be Happy, Joyous and Free!

let go and let god

15 Things to Let Go Of   Here’s a list of 15 things to learn to ‘let go’ of, if you want to be truly happy. Letting go can be simple and straightforward, but difficult to consistently apply to our lives. We need to practice them, over and over, so that the newly learned pattern becomes the default, standard behavior. Remind yourself, over and over, to let go of…. 1. Your need to always be right. “Would I rather be right, or happy?” 2. Control 3. Blame 4. Self-defeating self-talk 5. Limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” 6. Complaining. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. 7. Criticism. Give up your need to…

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I Think My Sister is Drinking Too Much

My Sister Is Drunk All The Time My sister is drinking too much. She tries to hide her drinking, but it is becoming embarrassingly obvious. If you think your sister is drinking too much and you are concerned about her alcohol or other drug use, you are not alone. Across the world, across cultures, across socio/economic statuses, sexual orientation, age and gender, and across families, alcoholism is a rampant disease.  Reading statistics about rates of alcoholism is one thing, maybe an intellectual enterprise, but when your beloved sister passes out one more time at the family gathering, it is a heart wrenching reality. My Sister is Drinking Too Much. How Do I Help? When I try talk to my sister about her drinking, she gets really pissed off. It is impossible to have a discussion with her about it. She will derail the…

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Sobriety with Complete Life Transformation

Sobriety and Life Transformation Pretty much everyone knows what ‘alcohol treatment’ or ‘drug rehab’ addiction treatment means, and what the process is all about. Briefly: a person finally breaks through their denial, realizes that their life is out of control, seeks and accepts help, and goes through change in thoughts, feelings and behaviors. Addiction treatment is a life changing proposition. If the alcoholic or addict is prepared to go to any length to get and stay sober, the results are nothing less than miraculous. Not only freedom from the chains of addiction – BUT – a whole new life of infinite possibilities and an understanding of what peace of mind really means. The change is much deeper than just stopping drinking or using drugs. It’s truly about life transformation. Unlike traditional institutional rehabs, we work passionately and intensely with each individual…

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New Year’s Resolution: Fail

The Truth About New Year’s Resolutions If you are reading this that means you made it through the holidays. Congratulations! — Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years are finally over and you can get back to your normal life. But, oh, those nagging New  Year’s resolutions! If you are like most people though, you don’t exactly want to go back to the same old same old. You want to start off this year by living better, healthier, fuller, so you made a New Year’s resolution or two. At least that’s the way it started out. Now that we are several days into this brand new year, reality has set in and those resolutions are slowly fading away. You should not feel bad about that though. It’s quite normal. In fact, only 8% of Americans say they follow through with their New Year’s…

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Recovery is Possible – At Any Age

Never Too Late For Sobriety

It is Never Too Late To Start Recovery  Ellen is now working on her second year in recovery, one day at a time My name is Ellen and I am an alcoholic. Last week I turned 70 years old. A few days later I had the greatest honour by celebrating my first AA Birthday! Who ever would think  I would be an elder and a toddler at the same time? Indeed, recovery is possible. The surprise gifts of life! In retrospect (hindsight is always 20/20), I have always dealt with alcohol and substance abuse as I sought out the non-existent comfort zone I craved. As a “functional alcoholic” for many years, the drinking continued and increased as I got older and had to deal with life. Danger: Retirement Ahead When I was 62 I retired from my career and sold my home. I moved…

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Post Rehab Aftercare Suggestions

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A Response From Serenity Vista With Post Rehab Aftercare Suggestions When we spend 45 – 90 days with a guest we come to care very deeply for them. We know the challenges are very great when a person returns home. Immediate post-rehab is a very slippery place. Our guests put a lot of effort into their Design For Living which is implemented immediately, beginning with stepping off the plane. The following is a response to an email received from a former guest. This former guest was wondering about an abrupt decision they had just made and wrote us for some feedback. We share these post rehab aftercare suggestions here for any other newcomers. Dear Former Guest, Hi! It is so good to hear from you. Thanks for writing. How do you know if your decision was the ‘right thing to…

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Crab-Dependency & Codependency Treatment

Crabs in the bucket

People-Pleasing Perils     Co-dependency, just like any other addiction, does kill. The person suffering from obsessive care-taking characteristic of codependency may not experience the dramatic death or lock up of an active alcoholic or addict, but they will surely die a spiritual, emotional or mental death. The family members and loved ones of addicts need recovery too. Codependency treatment can help those that are suffering from the same disease of addiction. First and foremost we recommend Al-Anon Family Groups, but many co-dependents need a residential treatment to learn the tools of recovery. The dynamics behind the destructive effects of codependency and co-dependent behaviors and relationships are difficult for many to grasp at first. This little metaphorical story helps to illustrate the need for codependency treatment: Crabs in a Bucket Demonstrate Codependency One day a little girl was down at a…

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STEP 2: Came To Believe…

Step Two of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) - discussed by addiction treatment rehab retreat at Serenity Vista

Step Two: Came to believe that a power greater than ourselves can restore us to sanity Step One: We admitted we were powerless – that our lives had become unmanageable Last month we talked about Step One of the 12 Step program. Step One of the Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) program and other twelve step fellowships is about admitting defeat, accepting that you are an alcoholic, or other form of addict.  Step One has us admit that our lives had become unmanageable. Our best efforts at navigating through life had failed. All of our great ideas and efforts to manipulate and control outcomes had failed. We were completely out of sync with life. The joy and harmony that our Creator wants for us had long since fled, if it was ever there for us at all. The first step to recovery…

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