Letting Go in Addiction Recovery…to be Happy, Joyous and Free!

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15 Things to Let Go Of   Here’s a list of 15 things to learn to ‘let go’ of, if you want to be truly happy. Letting go can be simple and straightforward, but difficult to consistently apply to our lives. We need to practice them, over and over, so that the newly learned pattern becomes the default, standard behavior. Remind yourself, over and over, to let go of…. 1. Your need to always be right. “Would I rather be right, or happy?” 2. Control 3. Blame 4. Self-defeating self-talk 5. Limiting beliefs about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. “A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” 6. Complaining. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking. 7. Criticism. Give up your need to…

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Joining My Son in Rehab

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Inquiry from Father: Can I come to support my son in rehab? Dear Serenity Vista, My 35-year-old son was just fired from his prestigious job because of his drinking. He has been struggling with alcohol for years. Now he has lost his job and his wife at the same time as a consequence of his alcoholism. He needs help! I’ve been searching online worldwide for the best international addiction treatment center because I am willing to help my son in rehab anywhere. Your program is impressive and I am recommending he come to Panama and attend Serenity Vista. He says he is willing to come. It sounds strange, but I am grateful and relieved that I will have my son in rehab. To help him feel comfortable with this change, I plan to rent an apartment in Boquete for the duration…

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My Daughter is Addicted to Drugs

Hope for Your Daughter My daughter is in her 30’s and has a drug addiction. She has been to rehab many times. She is addicted to drugs. Been in jail at least twice. My ex allows her to live with her for the last several years, supporting her etc….my daughter can be so sweet, but she continues to use drugs. Dear Friend, Thanks for reaching out for help. Dealing with someone you love in active addiction is indeed heart-wrenching. Not feeling safe to talk about her addiction to alcohol or other drugs can often compound this grief. It is important for you to have someone who will listen to you without passing judgment, or giving advice you don’t ask for. Based on what is known about being addicted to drugs, the reason your daughter is an addict, is because she is…

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Letting Go of Resentment

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“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die”.   Recovery from substance abuse can be a healing and transformative experience. But resentment is equally as poisonous. Holding on to past resentments – and all of the negative feelings associated with them – can derail and even de-motivate a person’s recovery and lead to relapse. It’s tempting to hold grudges, especially when you feel you’re “in the right”. But it only serves to pull you down. By forgiving others (and yourself), you’re able to truly heal from the past, embrace recovery and grow into the person you’re meant to be. But some resentments are harder to let go of than others. How can you let go of past wrongs that you have been carrying around for years – or maybe even your entire life? Here are…

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On Mindfulness and Letting Go

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The Art Of Letting Go   You’ve probably heard of the well known Twelve Step slogan, reminding us to “Let go and let God”. Well, mindfulness, an ancient form of meditation, is all about letting go. It could in fact be called “the art of letting go”. Mindfulness is about being able to let go of your worry about the future and your obsessions about past actions. It’s not about judging them. It’s more about becoming aware that you are having thoughts that keep you from living fully in the present moment. When you let go of these unhelpful thoughts, you are free to focus on what is happening for you in the present moment. As a result, you can become more authentic, and live a deeper, richer, more satisfying life. Mindfulness and letting go can be difficult at first,…

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Step One to Life Transformation

Step One We admitted we were powerless over alcohol and our lives had become unmanageable Who cares to admit complete defeat? Practically no one of course. So begins Bill Wilson’s, co-founder of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), essay on the principles of Step One in his book “The 12 Steps and 12 Traditions” of Alcoholics Anonymous. Yes, practically no one wants to admit defeat, that they are licked. What most of us learn in popular Western culture are things like, Never Surrender. If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again! I think I can. I think I can. I think I can. Pull yourself up by your own bootstraps. A personal favorite was illustrated in a common 1970’s poster of a kitten hanging onto a rope: Hang in there Baby! (When you get to the end of your rope, tie a big…

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Let Go and Let God

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Let Go and Let God Let Go and Let God.  One of the staple slogans in 12 Step. Let Go and Let God.  I remember hearing or reading this slogan for the very first time, wondering why they left off the end of the sentence. Let go and let God do what?  What the heck does Let Go and Let God mean? It sounded like gibberish (of course, most of the slogans did in those early days). One of the most common character traits (dare I call them defects?) of the addict, is the desire to control people, places and things.  Desire, manifested into action, has, in the past, brought proven results. When baby is hungry, and she cries, she gets fed. Baby has manipulated her environment to be satisfied and get life nourishment, and so it should be.  So this…

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Acceptance Is The Key to Recovery from Codependence

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Recovery from Codependence – Acceptance is the Key to Freedom When arguing with the Universe, the Universe always wins. Often I forget where I put the key to freedom, but there it is, right in my pocket, all along. Acceptance is the key to recovery from codependence, to a life of freedom. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous says it so succinctly, we’ve copied it out here for you. If you haven’t read it before, read it slowly and mindfully. If you have read it before, read it slowly and mindfully again. The Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous on ACCEPTANCE Acceptance is the answer to ALL of my problems today. When I am disturbed, it is because I find some person, place, thing or situation- some fact of my life- unacceptable to me, and I can find no serenity until I accept that person,…

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