New Years Resolutions

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Making Resolutions this New Year’s? If you are like most people, you are likely planning on making a few New Year’s resolutions this New Year. If so, congratulations! And, like most people, you may feel very committed to your resolutions, and, a few days or weeks in, you may do very well at adhering to them. If that’s the case, wonderful. Keep it up! But, what happens for most people is the incentive and best intentions begin to wane, and the regular adherence to those wonderful intentions begin to slip away. Perhaps its the regular gym attendance, or the diet, jogging, reading, or one of many other self improvement initiatives. In most such cases, keeping your resolution feels good; and slipping from regular adherence feels mildly frustrating and disappointing, but doesn’t really matter a whole lot. There’s always next year, right?…

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Why Am I An Alcoholic?

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Alcoholic – Just like Dad I said I would never become like my Dad, but I was. Growing up in an alcoholic home gave me an opportunity to hone and sharpen my survival-skills-set. It was always a gauntlet navigating the various stages of a drunk-father and a codependent-crazy mother. My two sisters were busy pretending everything was ‘perfect’ and hiding the evidence of our dysfunctional and violent family life. I swore I was going to get out of the madness by working hard, keeping my head down, and being successful unlike my ‘failure of a father’.  I got out as soon as I could and any backward looks were rare. Through my compulsive and obsessive work ethic, financial success was evident. The perfect show house, the head-turning car, the investments, beautiful new wife… ahh yes, I had arrived! The Slow…

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2020 Vision: Setting Mindful Intentions for a Sober Year

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New Year’s resolutions are typically thought of in terms of self-discipline. We promise ourselves we’ll work out more, be more productive, lose weight or hit our income goals. But the reality is that goals are much easier to accomplish – and more importantly, sustain – when you come at them from a place of self-love. And living sober in recovery with joy is a process that requires an extra gentle attitude toward yourself. Here are our ideas for intention-setting for addiction recovery as we look forward to a joyously sober year:    Setting Up a Simple Morning Self-Care Ritual Taking a few moments to start your sober morning off on the right foot does wonders for the rest of your day. This organizes your energies and sends a cue to yourself that you intend to go about your day in a…

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9 Steps to Stay Sober and Still Have Fun

Steps to Stay Sober and Still Have Fun

Stay Sober and Have Fun Challenging as it may seem, you can still have fun sober – even when you go out to events, parties and at the weekend. It’s a matter of re-learning how to have fun without drugs or alcohol and re-creating a new fulfilling life that you truly enjoy. This can seem boring or daunting at first because so many social activities revolve around alcohol in our society. In the beginning, it’s perfectly normal to have pulls on your mind that entice you to go back to old habits. The good news is that you can have way more fun sober if you get creative and explore all of the options that life has to offer. Being sober, we can enjoy a wide variety of activities and remember everything that happened. Often people feel that they don’t…

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Wanting Sobriety

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Wanting Sobriety   I Want to Walk in the Open Wind Here Comes The Rain Again, Eurythmics What do you Want? “I Want to Walk in the Open Wind” is the stuff of popular culture music and musings. Everyone has their own ‘I wants’. I want success. Money. Security. A better job. For my family to respect me. To be happy. Perhaps you now add wanting sobriety to your list of wants. Everyone has ‘wants’. But where most people spend their lives looking for satisfaction of their wants is outside. Outside of self. In other people, places and things. Are you Sick and Tired of Being Sick and Tired? Click here for a pdf guide download to help you assess your situation to see if you may have a problem. The Problem For many people, their needs are met to…

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Post Rehab Aftercare Suggestions

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A Response From Serenity Vista With Post Rehab Aftercare Suggestions When we spend 45 – 90 days with a guest we come to care very deeply for them. We know the challenges are very great when a person returns home. Immediate post-rehab is a very slippery place. Our guests put a lot of effort into their Design For Living which is implemented immediately, beginning with stepping off the plane. The following is a response to an email received from a former guest. This former guest was wondering about an abrupt decision they had just made and wrote us for some feedback. We share these post rehab aftercare suggestions here for any other newcomers. Dear Former Guest, Hi! It is so good to hear from you. Thanks for writing. How do you know if your decision was the ‘right thing to…

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Hitting Bottom – How Low Do I Have To Go?

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Before it’s 6 Feet Under   Hitting bottom refers to a place that a person suffering from addiction needs to get to in order to be able to fully surrender. The question is, how low do I have to go? The truth is that everyone’s bottom is not the same and it takes very different things to make a person in active addiction admit defeat. Where is the Bottom? For a lot of alcoholics or addicts, eating from a dumpster, losing custody of children, suffering physical abuse, becoming homeless, even doing jail time, is simply not enough to call it their bottom. For some, the bottom is 6 feet deep. For other’s, it may be waking up feeling regretful for having yelled at the kids or upsetting an important family event. The truth is that an addict does not have…

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Easy Does It – But Do It

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Easy Does It Easy Does It – But Do It Finding a balance between effort and allowing can be a difficult process for people coming straight from active addiction. Active addicts are always craving instant gratification – and NOW. In recovery we learn that time takes time, and that sometimes the very best thing to do, is to do nothing. We are human beings, not human doings. ‘Easy Does It’ is a useful recovery slogan serving as a reminder to strive for this healthy balance. Learning How to ‘Easy Do It’ Coming to a recovery program like Serenity Vista can be an incredibly valuable start to your recovery. Believe it or not, at Serenity Vista Addiction Recovery Treatment Retreat in Panama, there are actual “hammock assignments“. That’s right – go and lie in the hammock, no books, no music, no…

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4 Reasons Your Family And Friends Don’t Want You to Go to Rehab

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“Don’t Go to Rehab!”   I thought my family & friends would be supportive of me getting help for my addiction and go to rehab! What gives?? If you are concerned about your addictive behaviors, and think that perhaps you should go to rehab, it’s normal to turn to friends and family for advice. Sometimes they will confirm your fears and tell you that they have been worried about you and that they think you need to seek help for your drug or alcohol problem. But what happens when the situation is reversed, when they don’t think you need help? You may hear all sorts of reasons that your loved ones don’t think you should go to rehab. Are they valid? Below we have addressed four of the top reasons your friends and family might think you don’t need rehab.…

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