Tied Up In Illusion – Old Codependent Behaviors

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Tied Up in Illusion – Old Codependent Behaviors See if you can relate to this bovine story of stuckness illustrating codependent behaviors Here is a nice illustration of codependent behaviors: Early each morning a young boy let the cows out to pasture and in the evenings he brought them home. So that the cows didn’t roam through the night, he made sure they were each tied. One evening the boy saw a cow that had lost her rope during the day and he had nothing else with which to tie her. He couldn’t have her wandering off in the night, so he ran to ask the old man next door what he should do. The old man listened to the boy and nodded. “Son, you just pretend to tie up that cow with an imaginary rope. She’ll stay.” The boy was skeptical, but went back and tried the old man’s…

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First Things First

Never Too Late For Sobriety

First Things First One thing at a time – Notes from an Addictions Counselor Guest Blog by Karen Graham, Panacea Canada   First Things First. Successful recovery from addiction or self-defeating behaviour requires powerful, unwavering focus on one thing at a time – and that first one thing has to be your recovery. What is recovery? It’s a kind of extreme self care in multiple dimensions. Putting your recovery first means taking very good care of your body, mind, and spirit. For people recovering from addictions or self-defeating behaviours, recovery is the foundation for everything else in life; unless your recovery is healthy, it will be virtually impossible for you to be effective. A healthy recovery supports you as a friend, partner, employee, leader, parent, athlete, son, daughter, provider, care-giver… pretty much any role that you value in your life.…

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Nicotine Addiction Drug Rehab – Smoking Cessation at Serenity Vista

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Nicotine Addiction Drug Rehab If You Are Still Smoking, You Are an Active Drug Addict   There are not too many people smoking by choice these days. Almost every smoker has either entertained the thought, or has actually tried to quit… thousands of times. They have tried many methods too. Some of them are acupuncture, hypnosis, Zyban, Vipassana meditation retreats, nicotine gum, nicotine inhalers, electric shock… the list is endless. Nicotine addiction is a powerful drug addiction. When 12 Step fellowships and drug rehabs became accepted by the mainstream as an admirable way to deal with addiction to alcohol and ‘other drugs’, nicotine did not make the list of ‘dangerous drugs’. For many years people trying to get and stay clean and sober in a 12 Step Fellowship or through a treatment center, were encouraged to NOT stop smoking. People…

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Stop Smoking – Nicotine Addiction is Drug Addiction

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Stop Smoking – Nicotine Addiction is Drug Addiction Do you want to Stop Smoking? Answer the following questions as honestly as you can: 1. Do you use nicotine every day? 2. Do you use nicotine because of shyness and to build up self-confidence? 3. Do you use nicotine to escape from boredom and worries while under pressure? 4. Have you ever burned a hole in your clothes, carpet, furniture or car? 5. Have you ever had to go to the store late at night or at another inconvenient time because you were out of nicotine? 6. Do you feel defensive or angry when people tell you that your tobacco use is bothering them? 7. Has a doctor or dentist suggested that you stop smoking or chewing tobacco? 8. Have you promised someone that you would stop using nicotine, then broken…

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“High Success Rate” in Drug Rehab-Treatment

“High Success Rate” in Drug Rehab-Treatment If you or someone you know happens to be searching for a drug rehab or treatment center online that focuses on addiction and/or alcoholism recovery services, you may notice many facilities boast a high success rate that is better than the rest. The concern is that, unlike with many other medical issues, in the world of addiction and alcoholism recovery, success is measured on a multitude of levels and therefore, has many different interpretations. Some treatment centers’ idea of “success” is merely for a client to complete their 30, 45, 70 or 90 day residential drug rehab program without having relapsed during therapy. This is definitely not an accurate benchmark of success. After all, during this time their car keys, money and freedom were likely outside of their possession so it does not depict a real-life…

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Addictions and Your Cross to Bear

Your cross to bear

Addictions and Your Cross to Bear   Two little stories contain some spiritual truths that can help the addict or alcoholic look at the way they are living their lives. If you think that your troubles are worse than anyone else’s you will remain in self-pity. Tip: “Poor me. Poor me. Pour me a drink”. Self-pity, which is always combined with resentments of some kind, kills. In order to stay sober you really need to look at this. Having a “cross to bear” may be a term that has lost significance in contemporary North America as we aren’t a primarily predominant Christian indoctrinated people anymore. But like a Zen Koan, or a First Nation story passed down through generations, there are rich truths to be mined from all spiritual tradition scriptures. For people of Christian faith the Passion of Christ…

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