“Don’t Go to Rehab!”
I thought my family & friends would be supportive of me getting help for my addiction and go to rehab! What gives??
If you are concerned about your addictive behaviors, and think that perhaps you should go to rehab, it’s normal to turn to friends and family for advice. Sometimes they will confirm your fears and tell you that they have been worried about you and that they think you need to seek help for your drug or alcohol problem. But what happens when the situation is reversed, when they don’t think you need help?
You may hear all sorts of reasons that your loved ones don’t think you should go to rehab. Are they valid? Below we have addressed four of the top reasons your friends and family might think you don’t need rehab.
Everybody has a crutch
This is a common excuse you will hear to justify addictive behavior. Some addicts and alcoholics grow up in homes with a family history of addiction and some with active addiction in the family. This history can make it seem like the behavior is normal. Even where there is no family history, the shame of facing addiction in the family can cause many to deny the existence of the problem, subconsciously feeling that the family is somehow responsible.
You may hear things like, “some people smoke, others eat too many candy bars. Everybody has a crutch.” Such statements are an attempt to minimize the extent of the problem. While it is true that many people can become addicted to different things, you cannot let that determine your decisions or the outcome of your own life. Only you truly know the full extent of your problem and how it is affecting you.
It’s not that bad
Family and friends do not understand how addiction works. And if you are being honest, they probably don’t realize just how bad your specific problem with alcohol or other drugs has become. Addiction in any form is always progressive, which means it only gets worse if it is left untreated. The very fact that a discussion is happening around the topic is proof enough that, in fact, the problem is “that bad”. And the longer you go without doing anything about it, the harder it will be when you finally seek treatment. Although they are well meaning, family and friends are not qualified to give advice about addiction. It’s dangerous.
It’s nothing we can’t handle ourselves
It is not uncommon for friends and family to try to handle the problems of their loved ones’ with no help from anyone outside the family (or friendship) circle. To have people that care for you this much is truly special. Some of your loved ones just want to help. However, in some cases, the motive may be affected by shame, not wanting others outside the family unit to know there is a ‘drug’ or other form of addiction within the family. Regardless of the motivation, dealing with a drug or alcohol problem is not a task for the do it yourselfer. It is quite understandable that many families prefer to deal with problems internally, but this is a disease that requires special education and a certain level of experience to overcome, as is the case with any serious health care problem or disease. If a family member was suffering from diabetes or cancer, there would be no question that outside professional help is required. Such is the case with addiction as well. In fact, addiction is a family disease that affects the entire family system, so advice about how to deal with it within the family can be confused and not always the best informed.
It costs too much
Admitting you need help and seeking it out is hard enough without considering what the actual costs will be. Often, for families that want to help an addicted loved one, cost is one of the first things that come to mind. Cost is an important factor in many decisions, but it need not be a deterrent to getting good help. There are a number of options available to those who are serious about rehabilitation and getting clean and sober. In fact, the cost of rehabilitation services is one of the issues Serenity Vista wants to overcome. That is one of many important reasons why Panama was chosen as the ideal location for an outstanding alcohol, drug and other addiction facility. By doing business here, we can offer a high-end, upscale luxury treatment program at a relatively low cost. Developed and operated by Canadians along with a team of American professionals, Serenity Vista offers North American quality at Central American prices!
What About Other Concerns?
It is important to address the fear and concerns of your loved ones. But it simply isn’t possible for you to have all the answers. Serenity Vista Treatment Center is here for you. Let us help you so you can begin your path to a better life.
First, take an honest inventory of what’s happening in your life, and that of your family, and see if in fact alcohol or other drugs is a problem for you. Take an assessment to see if alcohol truly a problem for you. Family members can do a self assessment if they have become affected by what is called codependency. If any within the family system feel they need help, reaching out and asking for help is the first step. Codependency deserves rehab too. Some may benefit from office based or outpatient addiction counseling. Twelve step self help fellowship programs such Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) and Narcotics Anonymous (NA) are excellent and don’t have any direct costs such as dues or fees. Some people require the additional help of intensive 30 to 90 day alcohol or drug rehab addiction treatment. That is what Serenity Vista specializes in and will gladly help you assess whether you or your loved one require this level of help. Online self assessments can also be helpful.
Contact us today and we will help you determine if you need help, and the level of care appropriate for your needs. At Serenity Vista, we focus on helping you change in body, mind and spirit, not just changing one aspect, but to change your entire life, to transform it to one your love!
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